Co-parenting can be challenging even when both parents are committed. But what happens when one parent disappears or refuses to communicate? This “ghosting” can leave the other parent feeling frustrated, unsupported, and unsure how to move forward.

During October, with conversations around ghosting appearing in popular culture, it is worth looking at what this means in the context of family law and child arrangements.

The Impact of Parental Ghosting

When one parent suddenly stops engaging, it can affect both the other parent and the children involved. Practical issues like school runs, medical appointments, and financial support may be disrupted. More importantly, children may feel confused or abandoned if a parent is absent without explanation.

What You Can Do

If your ex-partner is avoiding communication or not meeting their responsibilities, there are constructive steps you can take:

• Document everything: Keep a record of missed contact, failed arrangements, or important decisions left unanswered.

• Prioritise the child’s wellbeing: Children thrive on routine and stability. Try to maintain consistency even if the other parent is not involved.

• Attempt safe communication: If possible, use agreed channels such as email or parenting apps to keep a record of attempts to co-parent.

• Seek legal advice: If ghosting becomes a pattern and affects your child’s welfare, you may need to apply to the court for a child arrangements order or to vary existing orders.

How the Court May View It

The family court always prioritises the best interests of the child. Persistent ghosting can be seen as failing to meet parental responsibility, which may influence how arrangements are set in the future. That does not mean contact is always withdrawn, but it does mean the court will look carefully at what supports the child’s stability and wellbeing.

Taking Back Control

Being left to carry the full weight of parenting is never easy. But you do not have to manage the situation alone. With the right advice and legal guidance, you can create clear arrangements that protect your child and reduce uncertainty.

If ghosting has left you struggling to co-parent, our family law team is here to help you understand your options and take positive steps forward.